A Kiss

“And he took her in his arms and kissed her under the sunlit sky, and he cared not that they stood high upon the walls in the sight of many.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien


A Mom lets go

I’ve been a mother half my life. Nearly a quarter century, and most of my adulthood. In all that time, I have been trying to figure out how to mother in a way that feels right. Or at least with my sanity intact. I made things especially hard for myself – though not deliberately. I […]

via On Motherhood — The Death Project

Looking Death in the EYE

My son Oliver and I recently accepted an invitation to answer some “ask me anything” questions from a class of college students in a course called Death and Dying. Here are Oliver’s answers to the questions they had for him about his mom being near death. What were my initial thoughts when I found […]

via Guest Post by Oliver — The Death Project

Ask me anything

(This “ask me anything” answer is in response to a class of young college students’ questions.) Do you have any regrets? Or, is there anything you would have done differently in your life if you’d known you’d die at this point? What would I have done differently? I answer this in more detail in my […]

via Ask Me Anything #5 — The Death Project

Friendly Tease

“Sam laughed, a funny, self-deprecating laugh. “You did read a lot. And spent too much time just inside the kitchen window, where I couldn’t see you very well.”

“And not enough time mostly naked in front of my bedroom window?” I teased.

Sam turned bright red. “That,” he said, “is so not the point of this conversation.” ― Maggie Stiefvater, Shiver

Nerd girls

“Nerd girls are the world’s most underutilized romantic resource. And guys, do not tell me that nerd girls are not hot because that shows a Paris Hilton-esque failure to understand hotness.” ― John Green

My mom was one of the smartest women I have ever known and is probably why I like smart women. She was also intelligent, which I define as pure cognitive abilities.  To me smarts are about common sense and have more to do with the ability to solve and resolve everyday life problems. Intelligence may derive a computer equation to solve a complex math relationship, but smarts is what figures out how to make a human relationship work. Some women can do both, as can men.