I just read a excellent post about a woman who feels like she lost part of her identity and life potential when she had her first baby. Mothers are no longer thought of in terms of being girls anymore, so that identity is gone but an entire world of possibilities has taken its place, arising from her role as MOM. Hopefully she has retained some of the enthusiasm, hopefulness, and energy she had as a child, and can combine it with her wisdom and experience as a MOM. For me, like becoming a DAD, it is a shift in identity and future responsibilities that counts. Its about the transitions we go thru as we grow. Changes. Hemingway wrote about “mountains moving” when he first fell in love, shifting again with his first child. Before he met her he had his identity and took care of himself. After meeting her his world view and identity changed, as he was part of a couple and responsible for the safety and welfare of both. His world view and identity changed again with the birth of his first child. Now the world revolved around the three of them…

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