A decade after her mother’s death, Ashley Abramson reflects on being raised by a parent addicted to opioids.

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Lessons Learned About Life, From Flowers

The best part about being ill is the flowers. I received so many flowers from well-wishers after my surgery last winter and then for months afterwards, until the spring offered its own bounty outside the window. The flowers truly brightened my days, especially in the bleak hospital. I spent the hours I was alone there […]

via On Flowers — The Death Project

Approaching The End

The other day while knitting, for diversion I picked one of the first movies that popped up in the first fringe netflix category I could find. It was Our Souls at Night starring the aged Robert Redford and Jane Fonda. They play long-widowed neighbours who finally decide to spend their nights together to relieve their […]

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Too busy

I’m about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.” ― Greg Behrendt

A Mom lets go

I’ve been a mother half my life. Nearly a quarter century, and most of my adulthood. In all that time, I have been trying to figure out how to mother in a way that feels right. Or at least with my sanity intact. I made things especially hard for myself – though not deliberately. I […]

via On Motherhood — The Death Project

Looking Death in the EYE

My son Oliver and I recently accepted an invitation to answer some “ask me anything” questions from a class of college students in a course called Death and Dying. Here are Oliver’s answers to the questions they had for him about his mom being near death. What were my initial thoughts when I found […]

via Guest Post by Oliver — The Death Project

Ask me anything

(This “ask me anything” answer is in response to a class of young college students’ questions.) Do you have any regrets? Or, is there anything you would have done differently in your life if you’d known you’d die at this point? What would I have done differently? I answer this in more detail in my […]

via Ask Me Anything #5 — The Death Project